For the start, i would like to clarify that this is not some kind of emo post where i will just rattle about "Someday my prince will come".
I always wonder if living happily ever after is possible, or perhaps, is it even an available option. More often than not, i feel tired and disappointed when i just think about how r/s tends to bring more heartache than joy. Lies and betrayal hurts, and they are part of love, which is why you love someone despite of who they are, not so much because of who they are. If you're into a r/s then you just gotta expect some traumatic experience to come upon you. Of cos, on the flip side, there are all the highs about a r/s as well.
i've come to learn that we need to take this two pronged approach towards this mega word - love. A r/s takes passion AND commitment. Meaning, you should have some passion towards this special someone when you're in it, but let's face it, you're NOT gg to be FOREVER passionate about it. So during times when your passion runs low, that's when buddy commitment kicks in and continue to hold your r/s to some stability point until you feel passionate about that person again. I seriously hope more people out there can see r/s as commitment and not just passion alone. And precisely because i (really) dont feel that people are committed nowadays, i tend to take a step back from such things. Its not exactly my fault. I just don't see eye to eye as to how the world runs today. I dont want to come to a point where i feel myself craving for intense attention and start shaking in a corner when i dont receive it. (By the way, this attention craving symptom is so official that there's a term for it called emotional dependency. Its so proven that you need to see a psychology to get a cure for it.)
A friend of mine that i talk to often but ain't really close came to confront me in a very subtle and caring manner recently. He says he feels that something is wrong with my thinking and that its not healthy. Its probably why God holds back from me as much as I hold back from Him. I agree, but i told my friend that its gonna take some time to change.
I don't think anyone would disagree with me if i say love is complicated. It's too complex beyond words that you find this option that says "It's complicated" when you're selecting your facebook status. Its an option now. Everyone in the world would probably agree that love is not as simple as a boy meeting a girl.
I'm tired. Good night.
wlove, eme